refactor: extract dereference/validate pipeline from reconcile

[maltesander]

Description

• added dereference and validate steps for zk and znode controller

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Author

• Changes are OpenShift compatible
• CRD changes approved
• CRD documentation for all fields, following the style guide.
• Helm chart can be installed and deployed operator works
• Integration tests passed (for non trivial changes)
• Changes need to be "offline" compatible
• Links to generated (nightly) docs added
• Release note snippet added

Reviewer

• Code contains useful comments
• Code contains useful logging statements
• (Integration-)Test cases added
• Documentation added or updated. Follows the style guide.
• Changelog updated
• Cargo.toml only contains references to git tags (not specific commits or branches)

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• Release note snippet added
• Add type/deprecation label & add to the deprecation schedule
• Add type/experimental label & add to the experimental features tracker

[adwk67]

Tests are all good. One comment from my initial look.

[adwk67]

Re-tested latest changes - all good. Thanks!